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The ruling of a woman who does not listen to the speech of her husband

Question:

What is your opinion of a woman who does not listen to the speech of her husband, and nor does she obey him, and she opposes him in many of the matters: such as she leaves without his command, and sometimes she leaves sneakily without his knowledge?

Answer:

It is obligatory upon the woman to obey her husband in goodness, and is it prohibited upon her to be disobedient to him and it is not permissible for her to leave his house except with his permission.The prophet sallahu alayhi wasalam said,
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when a man calls his wife to bed, and she refuses to come, whilst he remains angry with her, the angels curse her till the morning.

Agreed upon (narrated by Bukharee in his saheeh (6/150) without mentioning 'whilst he remains angry with her' ...ÝÈÇÊ ÛÖÈÇä ÚáíåÇþ..þþ. Muslim narrated it in his saheeh (2/1060þ) with the wording 'and she does not come to him' Ýáã ÊÃÊåþ.þþ.þþ in place of 'and she refuses to come' ,ÝÃÈÊ Ãä ÊÌíÁþþþ)

and the prophet sallahu alayhi wa salam said 'if i was to command anyone to prostrate to another, 'i would have indeed commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband due to the greatness of his right over her' (narrated by Abu Dawood in his sunan (2/250))

and allah ta'aala says,

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill­conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful).. (surah An-nisaa:34)

so he the most perfect has made clear that the man has authority over the woman, and that when it is denied for him, he takes with her the dettering measurement, from this is what indicates the obligation of obeying him in goodness and the prohibition of her opposing him without right.

Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan
Translated by Umm Mujaahid bint Abdul Khaaliq ibn Muhammad faadil

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